You’ve reached the personal blog of Eve Rickert, a Gen X, queer, solo polyamorous, relationship anarchist, neurodivergent cis woman living on unceded W̱SÁNEĆ and Lekwungen territory on the west coast of the place currently called Canada.
I am the co-author and copyright holder of More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory, the curator of More Than Two Essentials, the founder and publisher of Thornapple Press, and the founder and mastermind of Talk Science to Me.
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The More Than Two (second edition): Cultivating Nonmonogamous Relationships with Kindness and Integrity, by Eve Rickert with Andrea Zanin, will be out on the tenth anniversary of the first edition: September 2, 2024.
This is a guest post by my friend Shelly. Consent is a radical idea I would like for this to
Abuse is, unfortunately, common in polyamorous relationships, just as in monogamous relationships. Polyamorous abuse can look different from abuse in monogamous relationships because of the characteristics of group dynamics. In addition, most polyamorous relationship advice assumes non-abusive relationships, but may be harmful when applied to abusive situations, and many resources for abuse survivors aren’t necessarily friendly for polyamorous people.
CN: Sui*. Adapted from a thread at the Bad Place, originally posted July 15, 2021. Today is my friend Mary’s
I believe, pretty firmly at this point, that the foundation of a non-coercive nonmonogamous relationship has to be the ability to drop to zero-sum at any time, for any reason. That’s not just true for sexual relationships in a group, but also for metamour relationships. But more than that, the foundation of consent is a built-in exit clause for every single relationship. Not happy? Not healthy? It’s OK to leave.
