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Relationship Bill of Rights

This work was originally published in the book More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory (Thorntree Press 2014) and was released into the public domain on January 12, 2023. The Relationship Bill of Rights is also available as a poster from Thornapple Press.

The Relationship Bill of Rights from More Than Two

You have the right, without shame, blame or guilt:

In all intimate relationships:

  • to be free from coercion, violence and intimidation
  • to choose the level of involvement and intimacy you want
  • to revoke consent to any form of intimacy at any time
  • to be told the truth
  • to say no to requests
  • to hold and express differing points of view
  • to feel all your emotions
  • to communicate your emotions and needs
  • to set boundaries concerning your privacy needs
  • to set clear limits on the obligations you will make
  • to seek balance between what you give to the relationship and what is given back to you
  • to know that your partner will work with you to resolve problems that arise
  • to choose for yourself whether you want a relationship that is monogamous or not, and to seek partners who want the same things you do
  • to have agreements respected, and to have the option of renegotiating agreements that are no longer working
  • to grow and change
  • to make mistakes
  • to end a relationship

In non-monogamous relationships:

  • to decide how many partners you want
  • to choose your own partners
  • to have an equal say with each of your partners in deciding the form your relationship with that partner will take
  • to choose the level of time and investment you will offer to each partner
  • to understand clearly any rules that will apply to your relationship before entering into it
  • to discuss with your partners decisions that may affect you
  • to have time alone with each of your partners
  • to enjoy passion and special moments with each of your partners

In a family or intimate network:

  • to choose the level of involvement and intimacy you want with other members of the family or network
  • to be treated with courtesy
  • to seek compromise
  • to have relationships with people, not with relationships
  • to be treated as a peer of every other person, not as a subordinate

To the extent possible under law, Eve Rickert has waived all copyright and related or neighbouring rights to the Relationship Bill of Rights. This work is published from Canada.

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