I believe, pretty firmly at this point, that the foundation of a non-coercive nonmonogamous relationship has to be the ability to drop to zero-sum at any time, for any reason. That’s not just true for sexual relationships in a group, but also for metamour relationships. But more than that, the foundation of consent is a built-in exit clause for every single relationship. Not happy? Not healthy? It’s OK to leave.
There’s this idea that’s been rolling around in my head for awhile. I call it “bees in the closet.” You live
This is a guest post by my friend Shelly. Consent is a radical idea I would like for this to
“Did you feed the cat?”
It’s a simple question, right? My husband and I both feed the cat, though to be honest, usually these days it’s him.
So why is it that I feel guilty and defensive when I hear it? (Oh no, was I supposed to feed the cat? She wasn’t acting hungry, I thought he fed her already!)
This is an excerpt from a book called The Sparrow, by Mary Doria Russell, which I read a few years
So I think my internal storyteller deserves a Pulizter Prize. A remarkable thing happened with A: I discovered that giving him
If you’re poly, you’ve heard this story a million times before. S is polyamorous. At least he says he is—and having
I found this post painful to read. It’s a woman talking about her partner’s reduced desire for sex in their
