Tag: values

See the line where the sky meets the sea? It calls me…

On the couch

I’m writing this from the couch, where I’m sleeping tonight. My husband has his girlfriend over.

This is among the details of my life that seem to confuse some people, especially–but not always–monogamous people. This practice isn’t as common among poly folks as you might think (or maybe, as I might think). Sometimes I even get reactions of something approaching pity. Which is strange for me, of course, because I’ve consented to all those details, and

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Integrity

This is the tattoo I got on my left shoulder two years ago this week. It’s a quote from V for Vendetta, by Alan Moore:

But it was my integrity that was important. Is that so selfish? It sells for so little, but it’s all we have left in this place. It is the very last inch of us. But within that inch we are free…

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Getting to Know Me

I am an introvert who mimics an extrovert–quite effectively, actually. I do this mostly because extroverts are privileged in our

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Owning It

You see a lot of talk on poly sites and forums “owning your shit.” In other words, taking responsibility for

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Gratitude

I took ballet lessons for many years. In ballet, you always curtsey to your teacher on the way out and

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Free Will

One of the premises underlying my polyamory is the idea of free will. It can be hard–really hard–to give the

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